Amongst all the excitement of the wedding announcement there are usually three people celebrating with mixed emotions, the speech makers. The joy of the ‘wedding’ word is tinged by the fear of the ‘speech’ word for the father of the bride, the groom and the best man.
For many just the thought of both being the centre of attention and having to make a speech terrifies them. They may never have spoken in front of a group of people before, either at work or socially. The variety of people in a wedding speech audience is also the broadest of any other speaking situation.
So where are the positives? It’s perfectly natural to feel nervous when delivering any speech; in fact it helps if you do. The adrenalin will flow and you will be charged up and ready to go. However if you feel too nervous the quality of your speech will suffer, so the important thing is to find a balance by moving from fear to apprehension.
Henry Ford wrote “Whether you think you will succeed or whether you think you will fail, you will probably be right.”
It sounds harsh, but frankly the only real way to get over this is to just bite your lip and get on with it. Put the hard work of writing the speech and rehearsing it behind you and enjoy the day. The golden rules are prepare and practice.
At Casterbridge Speakers Club we help you to have fun as you slowly build up your confidence and ability to prepare, write, practice and make that wedding speech. Confidence grows quickly in a mutually supportive and positive learning environment as you learn to o speak in a structured way as well as developing skills that allow you to speak spontaneously on most subjects.
So why not give us a try? You can attend the first two meetings before deciding on whether or not to join; this gives you a chance to become familiar and hopefully comfortable in our meetings so that you can decide if it’s for you – I’m sure it will be. If you’re nervous about attending then bring along a friend or even the bride to be.
If you are interested please send me an e-mail to firstname.lastname@example.org. I hope we will see you soon at one of our meetings. You will be made very welcome.
Our meetings are held at the Wessex Royale Hotel, Dorchester on the 1st and 3rd Wednesday of each month between 7:15pm and 9:45pm. You can check us out at our website http://www.casterbridgespeakers.org.uk/ .